Legacy Lessons #1- An Introduction

Today makes it Precisely 1 year since I lost my number one reader, and 366 days since I posted last.

In all sincerity, Grieving my Number one Fan never halted or stopped my creativity. In fact, to the best of my knowledge, I believe my perception has taken a positive direction since it started, and I have had an opportunity of learning even new things, but the thought of not waking up to hear a question or a discussion regarding something intriguing, not to mention the fact that I deemed it fit to honor my favorite reader, made me Do two things- Pause, and Breathe.

However, In reflection of the event, the circumstances, and the personality involved, I realized I didn\’t just lose my number one fan at the time, but I had gained something- Good Antecedents, as well as Inspiring and Worthwhile memories of someone I held so dear to my heart, in the person of My Father.

The Past Year made me think a lot about some of the things I have learnt from him during our time together, and In all honesty, I must say, That he was the best father I could\’ve ever had.

Now, I feel the need to share some things I learned from him, and just so you know, this is a series. But they definitely won\’t follow in sequence.

This is because the Fatherhood I enjoyed, and the Journey of experiences I learnt from His life and thought process can definitely not be covered in a sequence of days. Or weeks. However, as Reflections Bring them, I\’ll be here.

This post is long enough, as far as I\’m concerned, but just so I do not leave your hearts watering, I\’ll be sharing one, so I give you an idea of what to expect.

Without Further Ado, Here\’s Number One;

Think For Yourself, And Own it. But Don\’t Be Rude about it.

The sincere truth is that this advice seems pretty straight forward, but it isn\’t. As simple as it sounds, A lot of people aren\’t clear about their opinions for the fear of certain reasons. Sometimes it comes from a need to feel among, other times it could come from a need to be in line with a so-called trend.

I once knew someone in school who really liked a girl and was scared of talking to her or reaching out because he felt that since some other \”people\” didn\’t talk to her, he shouldn\’t. If you\’re there too, irrespective of what your case may be, a job, a business, or whatever, Here\’s A sincere Advice- Don\’t die in silence. It\’s your Heart against Thiers. and Guess what, you make a mistake, Their heart won\’t remind you of it.

Here\’s something I remembered my father say;

\”Boy, Be yourself. Discipline yourself to do what you have to do. Never give an explanation for it unless it involves the people you love, and Never Owe anybody an Apology for Keeping your identity of who you are. In the end, They\’ll be willing to drop you off to keep Thiers. \”

As long as you have an original thinking pattern you have come to think of, Never feel inferior. Now, this does not mean you should disrespect other people\’s opinion, but rather, you could remind yourself that your not criticizing or confronting a person\’s way of thinking directly does not translate to your accepting the mindset of that person. Rather, Like a Mentor and a Leader does to a Younger One or a follower, You choose to Own your Identity and let your Path be a directional Guide.

Now, If you see something that makes you grow, The same wisdom that this comes from Makes you also Emotionally Intelligent Enough to Learn from it immediately, and Bring it into your reality.

I\’d still talk more on this, but it\’ll be with a few more lessons.

I love you Pop.

To everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Ciao.

\”The Pain of Discipline is better than the Pain of Regret\” – Robin Sharma